Dating a lightworker
Signs of gaslighting include the following:“They do this to cause others to doubt themselves as a way to gain superiority.Narcissists thrive off of being worshipped, so they use manipulation tactics to get you to do just that,” Peykar says.People with NPD will try to manufacture superficial connections early on in a relationship.“Narcissists love to constantly talk about their own accomplishments and achievements with grandiose,” says psychotherapist Jacklyn Krol, LCSW, of Mind Rejuvenation Therapy.What it boils down to, says licensed therapist Rebecca Weiler, LMHC, is selfishness at the (usually extreme) expense of others, plus the inability to consider others’ feelings at all.NPD, like most mental health or personality disorders, isn’t black and white.They might claim that you don’t spend enough time with them, make you feel guilty for spending time with your friends, or berate you for the types of friends you have. “They’ll put you down, call you names, hit you with hurtful one-liners, and make jokes that aren’t quite funny,” Peykar says.
But because of their low self-esteem, their egos can be slighted very easily, which increases their need for compliments,” adds Shirin Peykar, LMFT.“Narcissists think that they deserve to be with other people who are special, and that special people are the only ones who can appreciate them fully,” says Nedra Glover Tawwab, LCSW, founder of And usually you’ll have no idea of exactly what you did, says Tawwab. “If you think it’s too early for them to really love you, it probably is.“How narcissists treat you, or when they turn on you, actually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their own [beliefs].”Weiler’s advice: If someone came on too strong at the beginning, be wary. Or if you feel like they don’t know enough about you to actually love you, they probably don’t,” Weiler says.Walfish says that this inability to empathize, or even sympathize, is often the reason why many, if not all, narcissists’ relationships eventually collapse, whether they’re romantic or not.Most narcissists won’t have any long-term, real friends.
Dig deeper into their connections and you may notice that they only have casual acquaintances, buddies they trash-talk, and nemeses.